Does it count as eloping if you tell everyone you are getting married and just don’t invite anyone? I did not mean this as an insult to anyone, but for one of the few times in my life I decided not to try to please everyone else and do exactly what I wanted. And it was wonderful.
I never dreamed about having a big wedding. My dreams as a little girl were getting married under a waterfall in Jamaica or on the pitcher’s mound at Dodger stadium in the middle of a double-header. My mom was all for the idea of me going away to get married. When I was young she told me she would give me a thousand dollars if I went to Vegas to get married instead of having a big traditional wedding. That number kept growing as I got older.
Luckily my fiance (now husband) felt the same way and did not want a big wedding either. Here is why we went away to Australia to get married and did not invite anyone.
1. I hate being the center of attention and so does my husband. The idea of having a couple hundred people watch me walk down the aisle and then stand in front of them to give my vows is terrifying to me and would make me want to throw up. I cannot say for sure, but I think vomit might stain and would be hard to get out of a wedding dress.
2. The cost. Travel is my passion in life and I wanted to spend more money on the honeymoon than the actual wedding. We had the trip of a lifetime to Australia! We were also saving to buy a house in the San Francisco Bay Area which is one of the most expensive housing markets in the country. I do not understand people going into debt for twenty or thirty thousand or more for a wedding, but to each his own. Last I checked, I still do not have a trust fund, but I do ask my dad every so often in case he forgot to tell me about it.
3. My mom could not be there. My mom passed away when I was in college and having a big family celebration without her there would have been incredibly sad to me. There. I said it. Very few people in my life ever figured this out so to anyone who was insulted by why they did not get to be a part of the wedding, now you know.
Our wedding was 99% perfect! As for the one thing that was not perfect, well, at least I can laugh about it now because it is pretty funny. I do not regret at all the choices we made and I encourage other couples to do whatever is going to make them happy.
Tomorrow is our 11 year anniversary which I am celebrating with a week of posts about the wedding and honeymoon. You may not have been there, but after this week it will be like you were!
What is your take on eloping or having a very small wedding?
Read all about the wedding here: My Australian Dream Wedding